Trouble with my dog

[deborah]

Sorry for the late answer to this mail... Of some reason your mails alway
lay in the bottom of my mailbox... usually I do not look their, cause
there should only be 'old' emails. Sorry...

****In my opinion, the symptoms described by Deborah indicate there are more possibilities .
May be: 1)The dog is scared of Deborah. She could have made some
educational mistake. (I don't think so.)

I don't thin she's scared, but she is 'respectful'... sometimes I feel
really bad when I'm angry with her and let her know so. I couldn't dream
of yell of her, I just talk to her in an angry tone, but sometimes it
happens that she peeps...

2)The dog is confused and doesn't know how to behave.
The behaviour of Deborah and her husband wasn't consistent- every time
the same. They punished or rewarded her not always for the same the same way.

You have a point there. Sadly my husband isn't so interested in dogs,
(he's a computer engineer, say's it all doesn't it ) so when he spends
time with the dog, he doesn't act the way I've learned the dog that we
do. More sadly is the thing, that my husband and I act quite different in
almost every aspect of the dogs life... I've been trying to tell him
what's right and not, and he has been listening and learning quite well,
but all of you in realationships know, that your partner only 'allows'
you to correct him or her, a certain number of times before they get
angry and feel unuseful...

3)The dog makes this on purpose. She made something(Deborah) what the dog doesn't like or she does something what is not acceptable for the dog often.

- I do not hope so, but I wouldn't know. It is certainly not on purpose
then...

I do not think either, that she's suffering from seperation
anxiety.. 'cause she does not show any other signs than destroying and
peeing and so.. She is not nervous at all when I'm about to leave, she
gets a bit exited, because I get dressed - she know that that action also
means a walk in the forest I've now been trying to get dressed, and
then stay inside and then take my clothes of again, so she doesn't
necssesarely connect being dresses and to get a walk with each other.

The dog panics when left alone. You should never greet a dog
like that enthusiastically, in deed you should not greet it at all.
**** (Karin)This I don't find like normal behavior between the dog and
his owner.
When you behave to the dog like this for longer time, then he
thinks, you don't like him. He doesn't understand why you behave like
this to him.
You are punishing him every time you ignore him after coming home.
You push him away and he tries to attract your attention may be even by
peeing when you see it....

- I see my dog as part of the family, and when she is grown I'll get a
CsW... so it not like I don't like dogs or that I seperate them from me
and my familys life. BUT, I do think, that a dog is mainly still a wolf,
and I wanna raise it that way, not ignoring the wolfpart. And as I've
learned the alfa never greets the rest of the pack, as an earlier email
on this topic informed us as well. That's why I don't think that my
ignorance when leaving and returning, has caused the problem. The leaving
and returning has so far went pretty much without troubles.

.... dog like this you should try to get the bond
between your and the dog little less intense.
Don't allow the dog follow you
everywhere when you are at home and give it generally less affection.

I know, and I've tried. But how do you actually tell a dog not to follow
you around when she hasn't yet learned the "stay"-command? She normally
does not follow me around, but some days are worse than others...

Regards,
Deborah